Griefy friends

A Pet Grief Support Community

Mia’s Story

Mia was rescued just days before she was scheduled for euthanasia. Peter went to adopt a pet on his birthday, and Mia jumped on the bench beside him and chose him. From that moment, they were inseparable. Mia became Peter’s constant companion, supporting him through his divorce and alcohol recovery with unwavering loyalty and love.

When Peter and I started dating, Mia’s behavior changed. Her love for Peter knew no limits. She became protective of him and, at times, would destroy the house while we were out. Mia roamed freely on our farm, guarding our chickens and bravely fending off coyotes. Yet, as much as she thrived in her role, we knew she needed a companion to match her energy.

In 2014, Sammy joined our family, and he and Mia quickly became best friends. Their bond brought joy but also challenges as they adjusted to each other. In 2023, Sammy’s health declined, and we focused on giving him the best palliative care possible. We thought we would lose him first as Mia was a force of wild, carefree energy—a strong, fearless freight train who would live forever. But in late 2023, Mia showed signs of degenerative myelopathy, a fatal disease. By 2024, she had lost the ability to walk. Knowing her condition would only worsen, we made the difficult decision to help her transition peacefully at home in April 2024. Mia was 16.

Sammy’s Story

On November 2014, our lives changed when Sammy, a puppy rescue from Labradors and Friends, joined our family. We had gone to an adoption event, hoping to find a companion for Mia, but none of the dogs seemed quite right. As we were about to leave, I suggested we consider a puppy instead of an adult dog. The host immediately pointed us toward Sammy, as if they knew he was the one. Sammy passed the compatibility test with Mia, and he soon joined us at our home and they became best friends.

But as time passed, we noticed changes. In 2022, Sammy began showing signs of Cushing’s Disease and he was moving more slowly. After numerous tests, we confirmed that a pituitary tumor was growing in his brain. By 2023, his condition had worsened, and Sammy’s health took a sharp turn for the worse. He had lost his appetite and was losing weight. The tumor was significantly large that we were sent straight to oncology, but the oncologist told us Sammy had little time left, anywhere from three days to three months. We were heartbroken and felt like we had failed him.

But Sammy wasn’t ready to give up. We found a holistic veterinarian who worked with us to manage his condition, and Sammy continued to fight with everything he had. With their guidance, Sammy thrived, and we became hiking buddies. For another 1.5 years, we shared days filled with love, laughter, and gratitude. Sammy was more than a dog; he was my best friend, my confidant, my constant source of joy. Sammy’s strength and will to live were nothing short of inspiring, and every extra day with him felt like a blessing. Sammy’s sudden passing in August 2024 shattered my heart. Sammy was 9.5 years old.

HOW IT STARTED

Mia and Sammy were never just dogs. They were family. Losing Mia in April 2024 was incredibly painful, but we knew we had to stay strong for Sammy. Then, in August 2024, Sammy’s sudden passing broke me. When they departed, there was a hole in our hearts and a terrible sadness. I attended numerous support groups, but I felt something was missing. With so many people, often 50 or more, it was hard to concentrate, and there was little time for everyone to share our stories. Trying to connect with others felt overwhelming, and the experience only left me more anxious, and eventually, I stopped attending. The smaller groups didn’t offer the connection I was seeking.

GRIEFY FRIENDS IS BORN

It led me to reflect on what was needed: a more personal experience, a peer-to-peer community where we could share our experiences with fellow grievers outside of the professional support groups and impersonal chats. Originally, I wanted someone to walk with or have coffee with, a friend who had experienced the emotional rollercoaster of caring for a terminally ill dog or a senior dog, someone who understood the struggles and victories of what I call a “Labor of Love.” I realized that a community of peer-to-peer support could help us in our grief journey. That’s when Griefy Friends was born.

TURNING PAIN INTO PURPOSE

Losing Mia and Sammy, our soul dogs, felt like losing a piece of our hearts. The pain and sadness were magnified by the deafening silence, the empty beds and bowls, the toys, the food still waiting in the fridge, and their favorite snacks still in the cupboards. While I was lucky to have supportive friends and family, eventually everyone stopped the condolences. Grief never goes away, and then there’s no one to talk to. Griefy Friends is a community where those grieving the loss of a pet can come together, share stories, and heal. It’s a place to honor the love we shared with our pets and find comfort in knowing we’re not alone. Though Mia and Sammy are no longer with us, their spirits live on in this community. Their love became the inspiration for Griefy Friends, a space where healing and connection are possible for all who are navigating the pain of pet loss. Because losing a family member is heavy on the heart.

Pet grief is easier with a buddy.

Find yours at Griefy Friends.

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Please keep in mind: This community doesn’t replace therapy, counseling, or professional mental health services. All information and discussions here are focused on peer support and learning.